Running my life as a busy wife, boy mom, and business owner

On running a social selling business - successfully!

Sunday, August 18, 2019

If you run your own business, and especially if you're in the world of social selling, chances are you want to do it well. And you're always striving to do it better. 

Four years ago, I took a total leap of faith and started a social selling business. I'll be 100% honest with you and tell you I never saw myself doing direct sales - not because I had preconceived notions or prejudices toward the industry (I know some do). But, my background was in English and education. My master's degree is in Curriculum and Instruction with an emphasis in journalism. 


I'd never taken a business class in my life. And the closest I ever got to being a salesperson was my first ever job at our local Martin's Supermarket where I was a cashier. Not a whole lot of sales technique needed there! 


So I jumped into this world not because I had a passion for sales but because I have an insane passion for storytelling, and I knew this was a way I could help tell stories from home while my kiddos napped. 


I honestly didn't have a clue what I was doing. I didn't know a thing about branding, marketing, analytics, or customer relations. NONE of that was in my wheelhouse. But I love learning, and I'm a good student, so I knew I could learn. I jumped into every call, webinar, training, and resource provided by our Home Office (and seriously, y'all, KEEP Collective is INSANELY GOOD with training and resources!). I watched what successful leaders in my company and the industry as a whole were doing, and I took bits and pieces that I could apply to my business. I started reading more books on professional and personal development and started reading a little less fiction. And I spent time figuring out who I was as a designer (or consultant or salesperson or representative or ambassador or whatever you're called in your company). Who was I, and what made me, me? 


And there are lots of nuggets of wisdom I could unload here. And I do - weekly - on my team's Facebook page - because when we all share those nuggets, we ALL benefit. I'm so damn lucky to do this among INCREDIBLE teammates and other designers who are always lifting each other up. 


But today, I'm sharing the biggest nugget with you. Because sharing is caring, y'all, and we're all in this together. 


The BEST piece of advice I can ever give you: Get consistent. 


I realize that probably sounds really simplistic, right? 


But consistency in your business solves SO FREAKING MANY PROBLEMS you might face. Let's break it down, okay? 


Posting on social media

Twenty years ago, the world of direct sales looked INSANELY different. Why? Because social media was just a baby (or in most cases, non-existent), and it has VASTLY changed how people share. We no longer call Aunt Agnes to tell her the latest things the kids are up to. Instead, we post our pictures and stories on Facebook and she sees it all there. We no longer have to rely on the postal service to get catalogs and information across the country. We just share a link, and poof, the information is there! 

So why does consistency matter on Social Media? Because you and your business aren't people's priority. While your best friends and family members may know what it is you do, the vast majority probably does NOT. It's important to let people know who you are and what you have to offer. 


Now, that DOESN'T mean you post 17 times a day about your business (or 17 times a day, period). But what it does mean is that you find your cadence and you commit to doing it. Maybe you share on your personal page when you have new products that launch, and you share more frequently in a group or on a business page where people make the choice to follow you. But find a rhythm that works for you and your type of business, and commit to doing it. 


Casual conversations with new people

For the first three or so years that I was designing at KEEP Collective, every single time someone asked me what I did, I'd say that I was a stay-at-home-mom. Which, true. BUT, I also work from home, and I freaking LOVE that I get the balance of both. So now when people ask what it is that I do, I tell them that I get to work from home with an incredible storytelling and jewelry business while raising my babes. It's the best of all the worlds and the perfect fit for our family. 

Sharing what you do is important, and so are those casual conversations. When you meet new people, don't be afraid to share what it is you do when it comes up! If they ask more about it, AWESOME. If they don't, that's awesome too. But keep talking about it - when applicable. 


Putting in the time 

Your business is flexible, but it's not optional. And we ALL have stuff going on. But if you're going to make your business thrive, you have to put in the time. You have to make it or find it. Getting up 20 minutes earlier. Setting aside an evening or two a week. Committing to 30 minutes on a weekend morning. Skipping an hour of Netflix here and there. It doesn't matter when or how, but the effort has to be there. And this really has to be what works best for YOU. For some people, it's really structured time the same days of the week. For others, it's fitting it in during the small crevices of the day (this is how I operate, but I know it doesn't work for everyone!). It doesn't matter how. It matters that you DO. 

There will be ebbs and flows - as in all things. And flexibility and adaptability are key. But consistency HAS to be a part of that. 


If you own your own business or are in social selling, I'd love to know, what's YOUR best piece of advice? What would you tell others? 


Stitch Fix #34: Summery shirts

Sunday, June 23, 2019


Summer is here! Well, theoretically anyway - it's like 68 degrees in northern Indiana and raining all. the. time. right now. But, the calendar says summer, so celebrating summer is what we'll do! After perusing my closet the other day for a summery but not too summery top to wear, I realized I was seriously lacking in the cute top department. So naturally, it was time for a Stitch Fix! 

If you don't know about Stitch Fix (<--Referral link!), let me give you a little rundown. Stitch Fix is a clothing subscription service, and you decide how frequently, or infrequently, you'd like a shipment. You'll fill out a detailed style profile about your sizes, style preferences, and budget (and it's super fun to fill out the profile to see what your style preferences are!). Not only does Stitch Fix offer clothing, but they have accessories, bags, and even shoes! They style men, women, and children, and they offer extended sizes. And, if someone signs up through your referral link, you get a $25 credit to use toward your next purchase! (And let me tell you, that adds up to some awesome free clothes!) The BEST part of Stitch Fix? It comes directly to my door which means I can try it on in the comfort of my own home, pair it with things already in my wardrobe, and not have to take my brood into a dressing room with me. So much winning! 

This time around, I asked my fabulous stylist Serena for tops - just tops. In particular, I wanted things that I could easily run around in with the kids but still looked polished and like they had a touch of style to them. And I kind of think Serena knocked it out of the park with this box! 

1. Papermoon Lecea Key Hole Detail Knit Top, $36
I think this little number is so sweet, and I love the emerald green color mixed with florals! The tie sleeves are a cute touch, and the key hole detail on the back would be cute for days when the mom bun is in full force. Good with shorts, cute with jeans, this one might be a win! 

2. Papermoon Lesa One Pocket Knit Tank Top, $28 
This actually reminds me of a tank I used to have from H&M that I pretty much wore to death, so I was super excited to see it in the box! It's super lightweight, really soft, and has just a really simple striped pattern to it. Again, super casual for running around with the kids which is just what I need most days! 

3. Colette Leola Mixed Material Knit Top, $36

See what I mean about being a sucker for stripes? I'm also a sucker for polka dots! I love the mixed materials of this top - the patterns and actual materials! It's white, which is mildly concerning with two boys, but I also feel like this is so cute that maybe I just wouldn't wear it around the kids! 

4. Pink Clover Pallas Knot Front Knit Top, $28 
Stripes AND florals AND a cute tie at the bottom of the top?! I mean, that's just FUN! It's another easy one to throw on when I'm running with the kids, and I love that it looks polished and put together. 

5. Hazel Alvida Embroidery Detail Top, $42
This is the only one of the tops I'm not too keen on. I love the embroidery detail at the top, but it feels a little short and it's a little bit see through. I don't hate it - I just don't know that I love it either. The color is so summery though! 

And here's the kicker, friends! Because I have some credit on my account, if I keep all of them, it's going to be $69 TOTAL (Stitch Fix math is the BEST math!)! So, what do we think? What's a must keep and what needs to go back? Or do I keep it all? 

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On being Intentional in 2019

Monday, April 8, 2019

If you've been following the blog for awhile (hey, thanks for doing that, by the way!), you may remember that I dubbed 2019's word of the year to be Intentional. I decided I really wanted to do a better job of focusing my energy and bucketing my time accordingly to avoid all the mindless junk. So three months into the year, it feels like a good to reflect on where things are. 

Truth be told, I took on this word because I'll be the first to admit I spend too much time on my phone. As someone who predominantly works her business from her phone, it's present a lot (read: a LOT) in my day-to-day. And I don't want my kids growing up in a house where my face is in a phone more than their business. 

Am I being more intentional? Yes. I'm spending more focused, quality time with my kids with less distractions. I'm putting the phone down more and more, and we're all going device and screen free a little more often. And I have to say, it's had a positive impact on all of us. Our four-year-old is in a WAY better mood when he watches less TV and iPad. Like way better. And my husband and I have commented more than once that we think screens are a catalyst to unsavory behavior for him. I'm using my time more wisely and making work fit into my life and not the other way around. And it's had a positive impact on our family unit as a whole - and for that, I'm grateful. 

Is it a perfect system? No. I'm still working on some of my other Intentional goals, namely my nutrition (I just loooooooove sweets!), my reactions to things that are outside of my control (oooooooh life), and the things we bring into our home (seriously, how does so much stuff just accumulate so quickly?!). 

But. But, we're moving in the right direction to being more Intentional. 

So today, I'm posing the question to you. If you could choose an area of your life to be more intentional, what would you pick? 

Stitch Fix #33: A cruise worthy ship-ment

Monday, March 18, 2019

Well, we're just cruising right through March over here at our house, and I for one couldn't be happier! Warmer weather is in the air, boots are finally packed away, and I'm super hopeful that we're going to see some serious spring coming soon. And that means the hubs and I are getting closer to our Bahamas cruise! I'm starting to think about ship attire since it's been - oh - a decade or so since I've cruised! Naturally, I needed a little Stitch Fix to help me snag a few more pieces for the boat! 

If you don't know about Stitch Fix (<--Referral link!), let me give you a little rundown. Stitch Fix is a clothing subscription service, and you decide how frequently, or infrequently, you'd like a shipment. You'll fill out a detailed style profile about your sizes, style preferences, and budget (and it's super fun to fill out the profile to see what your style preferences are!). Not only does Stitch Fix offer clothing, but they have accessories, bags, and even shoes! They style men, women, and children, and they offer extended sizes. And, if someone signs up through your referral link, you get a $25 credit to use toward your next purchase! (And let me tell you, that adds up to some awesome free clothes!) The BEST part of Stitch Fix? It comes directly to my door which means I can try it on in the comfort of my own home, pair it with things already in my wardrobe, and not have to take my brood into a dressing room with me. So much winning! 

This time around, my best gal Serena pulled some super spring-y pieces including pink jeans (can I rock pink jeans?! Undecided!), a really cute floral kimono, and some tops I really like. But I need your help trying to decide what to keep! (Also, let's pretend there was some really gorgeous natural lighting for these pics, k? K!)

1. Lakeview Denim Alex Colored Skinny Jean, $58
2. Emory Park Eilley Ruffle Sleeve Blouse, $38
Alright, y'all. Pink jeans. What do we think of these? I have a few pair of colored jeans, but they're definitely neutrals, and I feel like these are a little more bold than I'm used to. And the kimono! I need something white and coral for the cruise, so this is totally the right color pallet, but I'm not sure how I feel about the super ruffle on the sleeve. Tell me your thoughts! 

3. Alice Blue Simona Henley Blouse, $38 
LOVE the green color of this tank, and the pattern is cute! I could totally see myself wearing this shirt on the day-to-day, which is totally appealing for extended wear. Plus, it could be super cute with white shorts! 

4. Alice Blue Bushnell One Pocket Blouse, $38 
This shirt is SO sweet for spring! I love the yellow, the floral, the short sleeve, the pattern, the little pocket detail. It's super cute and lightweight, and again, I could see myself wearing it regularly mixed with other pieces I already have. 

5. French Grey Valina Back Detail Brushed Knit Dress, $48 
You may notice I look annoyed in this picture. That's because two seconds before this picture was taken, my husband/photographer opened his honest, honest mouth and said, "Huh. That dress kind of makes you look big in the middle." Hard no on this one, then! To be fair, I think it's too big overall, so it's ill fitting on TOP of the fact that it makes me look big in the middle. Thanks, hun! 

So that's my cruise-y shipment, and I need your help figuring out what to keep! 

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What the Marines taught me about motherhood

Monday, March 4, 2019

About a decade ago, my sweet coworker Jerra and I traveled to San Diego for a week to learn about the Marine Corps. It was a trip for Indiana educators sponsored by the Marines so that we could get a literal inside look into the military in case we had students who might be interested in pursuing the career path. 

The trip was so eye opening in so many ways. I was incredibly ignorant when it came to the military, and the trip was equal parts learning, growing, and fun (and drinking, if we're being totally honest here). That trip still occasionally pops into my mind, especially since I became a mother. 

Because almost daily, there's a mantra I learned from my time with the Marines that I fall back on. 

One of the coolest parts of the trip was on the second day of our boot camp experience when we got to have lunch with some of the guys going through basic training. These guys had been on base for 6-7-8 weeks without any civilian contact by the time we got there, so we were a welcome sight in the mess hall that day. Jerra and I sat down with a REALLY nice young man who reminded me of so many of my students. Super smart, super talented, and wanted to do something amazing with his life. We talked for a long time about his family, his high school experience, the teachers he had, and what he wanted his future to look like. And we had the opportunity to ask him a lot of questions. And so I asked him - How do you do this every day? Knowing that the whole goal is essentially to break you down to build you back up stronger? How do you persevere through that? 
Me and Jerra having lunch with our Marine recruit!
He thought about it for a little while, but he finally just said, "Ma'am (btw, I was all of 26 at the time of this trip, but I got ma'amed everywhere we went) - Ma'am, I just focus on getting from chow to chow. I try not to think about the weeks or days that are left before I get to move onto the next step. I just focus on making it to breakfast, and then to lunch, and then to dinner, and then to breakfast again. Small goals. It helps me to stay positive." 

That conversation stuck with me, I suppose, because when I became a mom, and in particular, a work-from-home mom, his words came back to me. 

I LOVE almost everything about being a mom. I love the way my sweet boys are all snuggly and red-cheeked when they wake up in the morning. I love watching them learn something new or accomplish milestones they've been working on during the day. I love their love for each other. And I love that I get to spend so much time with them. I'm incredibly blessed to be able to stay at home with them, and I don't take that for granted. 

But y'all, I live in reality, and this job is HARD. It's the hardest job in the world with incredible stakes and no real performance review to help you improve every six months or so. Some days, it feels like the movie Groundhog's Day - wash, rinse, repeat. Chasing two little boys really IS super rewarding, but it's also mentally (and sometimes physically and emotionally) exhausting. 

So on those totally hard days, I embrace this mentality. I don't look at the month ahead or the week ahead or even the whole day ahead. I just focus on the next few hours until we get to a meal. Because ANYTHING is possible for a few hours. 

On the super hard days, I've trained myself to see the meal as a reset. Going forward, positive vibes. Whatever happened prior to that meal is water under the bridge, and we reset the day. 

Again, I love in reality, so this doesn't always work flawlessly. Some days are just a MESS regardless of a different meal, a mental reset, whatever. But some days, we DO reset, and we have an amazing afternoon or evening together when mere hours before, the day looked like a catastrophe. 

I did a lot of learning on that trip to San Diego a decade ago. But this lesson - this is the one I carry with me now as a mom. And I encourage you to try it too! 

Stitch Fix #32: A spring pick-me-up!

Sunday, February 24, 2019

If you're anything like me, life is happening in a HURRY this month. It's already the end of February! HOW?! And gratefully, we're transitioning into spring, and that makes me super excited! I was in the mood for a little spring pick-me-up, so I ordered a Stitch Fix Box! 

If you don't know about Stitch Fix (<--Referral link!), let me give you a little rundown. Stitch Fix is a clothing subscription service, and you decide how frequently, or infrequently, you'd like a shipment. You'll fill out a detailed style profile about your sizes, style preferences, and budget (and it's super fun to fill out the profile to see what your style preferences are!). Not only does Stitch Fix offer clothing, but they have accessories, bags, and even shoes! They style men, women, and children, and they offer extended sizes. And, if someone signs up through your referral link, you get a $25 credit to use toward your next purchase! (And let me tell you, that adds up to some awesome free clothes!) The BEST part of Stitch Fix? It comes directly to my door which means I can try it on in the comfort of my own home, pair it with things already in my wardrobe, and not have to take my brood into a dressing room with me. So much winning! 

So, I'm going to preface the following photos by telling you these were taken on a gloomy day with horrific indoor lighting while playing PJ Masks with my son. So the pictures were literally taken in between running around saving the day - hence my totally awkward poses in some of them. But they're good for a laugh! 

1. Andrew Marc Performance Fiah Twist Back Knit Top, $44
See what I mean about my wonky superhero poses?! SO, this was the top I was most excited for right out of the box! I'm a sucker for stripes, and I thought this would be the best for every day wear with the kiddos. I'm not sure I like the top with these jeans, but maybe with a darker pair? I don't know. HELP! 

2. West Kei Julianna Cuffed Sleeve Tie Front Blouse, $44
The terrible lighting does this shirt no justice, because the evergreen color of this is GORGEOUS! I kind of love the neckline and sleeves, and the tie front detail is super cute, but I don't know if I see myself getting enough wear out of it! But so. darn. cute!

3. Lush Warren Split Neck Blouse, $44
Guest starring my sweet eldest (in his Santa jammies because that's how we roll!)! I think he was a bad guy in this scene. :P This top is really sweet - black with subtle white polka dots, and it's definitely something I could see myself wearing for casual days, KEEP events, and more. Plus, it's dark, and that bodes well for boys! 

4. West Kei Allan Rolltab High Low Blouse, $42
I wasn't sure how I felt about the color of this one (kind of a dull mustard), but I actually DO like the color and print better on. Again, I think it would be way cuter with a darker jean, but it's a cute option! 

5. Pink Clover Jamila Button Back Brushed Knit Top, $44 
I love a good floral. And a good button detail. And this shirt has both! PLUS elbow patches! I like this shirt a lot, and again, I think it would be great for everyday wear with the kids. But it seems so fall and winter to me, and I'm hoping spring is just around the corner! Thoughts? 

So that's it, friends! I REALLY could use your opinions, so weigh in on Facebook or in the comments section. What am I keeping?! 

Want more to see more Fix goodness? You can see previous Fixes here:
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Our weekend getaway to Great Wolf Lodge

Friday, February 15, 2019

After several months in a row of holidays, lots of working, and not enough time together, we decided some family time was in order. Our sweet son must have felt the same, because when we gave him the choice of a birthday party or a getaway to the water park with just our family, he chose the latter. So off we went to Gurnee, Illinois to Great Wolf Lodge. 

And I'll tell you. It was SO much fun! 


It was also a really good indicator that we are in NO WAY AT ALL READY FOR LARGER TRIPS (props to those of you that do this on the regular with two small children). When we drove out of that hotel parking lot with our two sleeping kiddos (because, hello, the fun had ended, and it was naptime), we both looked at each other and declared that we were EXHAUSTED. 


But allow me to back up and tell you about the trip prior to leaving the parking lot. We scored a good deal directly through Great Wolf's website, so we planned to arrive on a Thursday and leave on Saturday. This worked out super well for playing in the water park, because Thursday and Friday weren't too busy at all compared to Saturday morning. The downside to going during the week was that our dining options were more limited because not every restaurant opened, but we made it work! 


Our four-year-old was SO darn brave. He went down every single slide he was allowed to and begged us to go on the ones he wasn't big enough for yet. I think he's going to LOVE going back when he's a few inches taller. 


The toddler area was so much fun - it included a splash pad and three incredible slides. It was perfect for our little (and our bigger guy when he needed a little break from the big guy action). 


We took advantage of a lot of the several of the activities offered - morning yoga and show, evening story time, and a little wilderness walk with Wiley Wolf (perhaps Henry's favorite part). We loved all the little extras. :) 

Morning yoga for the boys
You'll notice a massive lack of photos in this post, and that was kind of done on purpose. We really just wanted to disconnect and NOT feel the need to have our phones with us at all times. And it was kind of an awesome break. 

We'll definitely be going back again. And if you need a little push to get away... here's your push. Plan a little getaway. You won't regret it! 
 
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